When people keep "If Only"

The “If Only” Disease

“If only I could do that”. This one is shoddier than your zit which has a unique way of popping up on thanksgiving or a wedding. We’ve all been through this “if only” phase and sadly it has never worked. It has always left the person drained emotionally and with a bitter mood for days. A friend of mine, who was dumped by her boyfriend never got another one because she thought it was her fault that he left her and regretted it to the point of obsession. Everyone other than her knew that the break-up was not her fault, and that some guys just want to play the field. Many of us think along these lines, “if only I ....., It wouldn’t have happened”. But it did.

We all know that the past cannot be changed. If it could be, it wouldn’t be called the past. Of course, we understand that regret, at times, is unbearable. But you can’t go back and change what has happened. Grieve but don’t well up in it. Regret, but not unproductively. The “if only” regret is unproductive and would not give you any output.

Live your life. Don't regret.

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What I would do to be a better student/human being? (part 2)

BETTER STUDENT

Befriend people who I consider a good influence, but don't expect them to be saints.

They may make mistakes because they don't realize they have the virtues you see in them. Never give up.

Read.

Spend a good amount of your time reading about something beneficial towards your intelligence and keep updated about society. People admire smart peers, and being well-educated means that you will be able to stick up for what you believe in by using fact! A good debate always challenges human intelligence and builds pride.

Boost your intelligence.

The ability to perform mental tasks with ease is invaluable; taking simple steps in your daily life will help you to cultivate your brain power. Practice your cognitive mind by exercising your thinking patterns. Which means challenge your mind in a way that expands thinking beyond what this universe can even offer!

Finish college.

If you haven't gone yet, make a plan to do so. There are so many opportunities that you are missing out on if you refrain from getting a formal education. Job opportunities will be opened up, you will gain respect from colleagues, along with the bonus asset that you become more intelligent. It is never too late to go to school. Stop making excuses! There are many grants available, and schedules can be flexible.

Stay active.

Being healthy and fit allows you to perform more tasks with ease and precision. Just thirty minutes of activity a day can help you lead a healthier, longer, more fruitful life. So what are you waiting for? You'd be amazed at how much body and mind are connected.

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What we can do to help ease world hunger (part 2)

• In the Asian, African and Latin American countries, well over 500 million people are living in what the World Bank has called "absolute poverty".
• Every year 15 million children die of hunger.
• For the price of one missile, a school full of hungry children could eat lunch every day for 5 years.
• Throughout the 1990's more than 100 million children will die from illness and starvation. Those 100 million deaths could be prevented for the price of ten Stealth bombers, or what the world spends on its military in two days! 
• The World Health Organization estimates that one-third of the world is well-fed, one-third is under-fed one-third is starving- Since you've entered this site at least 200 people have died of starvation. Over 4 million will die this year. 
• One in twelve people worldwide is malnourished, including 160 million children under the age of 5.
• The Indian subcontinent has nearly half the world's hungry people. Africa and the rest of Asia together have approximately 40%, and the remaining hungry people are found in Latin America and other parts of the world. Hunger in Global Economy 
• Nearly one in four people, 1.3 billion - a majority of humanity - live on less than $1 per day, while the world's 358 billionaires have assets exceeding the combined annual incomes of countries with 45 percent of the world's people. UNICEF 
• Half of all children under five years of age in South Asia and one third of those in sub-Saharan Africa are malnourished.
• In 1997 alone, the lives of at least 300,000 young children were saved by vitamin A supplementation programmes in developing countries.
• Malnutrition is implicated in more than half of all child deaths worldwide - a proportion unmatched by any infectious disease since the Black Death.
• About 183 million children weigh less than they should for their age
• The assets of the world's three richest men are more than the combined GNP of all the least developed countries on the planet.
• Every 3.6 seconds someone dies of hunger.
• It is estimated that some 800 million people in the world suffer from hunger and malnutrition, about 100 times as many as those who actually die from it each year.

Take Action: 

• Influence public policy to support poor people. Governments play a key role in allocating resources and adopting policies that influence the lives of poor and hungry people. 

• Contribute financially to reducing hunger and poverty.  While it is, in general, not possible to support individual poor families, it is possible to contribute to organizations that do support poor people. 

• Work directly with poor people.

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What I would do to be a better student/human being? (part 1)

BETTER PERSON

Spend time with my family.

It is truly a learning experience to all of you. Spending quality time away from the T.V. can help you delve into the minds and hearts of your loved ones, allowing you to help them with any problems they may be experiencing and getting to genuinely know them. Studies have shown that children that eat dinner as a family are less likely to do drugs, alcohol, or be depressed. Just fifteen minutes a day with family can deeply help everyone involved.

Love what I do!

Do what you love- If we can finally admit that we are in need of something to fill the void in our life that eats at us every moment. Do not think that loving a partner, even a distant friend will make you become suddenly happy. Satisfaction is only obtained through the knowledge of realization that only a true passion that will return to you its rewards, and then will satisfy your void and human thirst for fulfillment. Love something, that will give back and that you will not have expectations for! Be in control.

Decide what it is making I feel a bad person.

Everybody's different and we can't be somebody else. Though if what is making you feel like a bad person is a quality, identify it. Sometimes growth requires change. We can always be a better person. Focus on one quality on time, and be consistent with the change you want to make. Over time, little by little you can make yourself that better person. Remember you can't change your past, but you are the only person that can change the person you are in the future. It starts now.

Always think that helping others helps me.

Act as though someone is watching me, feeling good inside and be satisfied with whom I've become.

Make changes slowly.

Try one new behavior at a time. We cannot become a better person overnight. It is a process. You should change your habits and your mind will follow. A habit forms and breaks with one month. 

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Do you think you can achieve Dean's List for this semester? (part 2)

Hi again guys!!!

Still the same topics but this part i want to elaborate more about how to achieve dean list (well i survey how people with dean list do every day), i hope that this piece of advise will somehow help you though. First, i do notice this kind of people revise their studies every day (especially at night) and challenge themselves to the toughest when it come to doing homework (tutor, assignment at whatever that can be done). Next, they reduce their social and playing time by a lot so they can spent more time studying (its kind of  hard for me though but i tried it and find it quite interesting habit to do). Also, the most important part is that the never stop themselves to be close to Allah S.W.T by praying (for example recite the Al-Quran, and pray so that they could be bless with confident and intelligence). Hmm..i think that is all i can elaborate about how to achieve the dean list.So i hope you guys can practice the "key of success" and achieve your goal as clever student...Thank you ^^

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